How to tell if an INTJ is interested in you?

Thursday, July 5, 2012

How to tell if an INTJ is interested in you?

When an INTJ first discovers that he/she is interested in you, his/her 1st reaction will be to draw back. This will manifest itself in different ways. He/she will treat you as if you are invisible and possibly ignore you, perhaps even to the point of rudeness. This is because feelings are confusing to the INTJ and you, as his/her object of interest, elicit feelings that the INTJ is not accustomed to dealing with. Therefore the first reaction is to take a step back and evaluate the situation.

After that, the INTJ may initiate contact. This can be either direct or indirect. You might find them spending more time around you and they might try to draw you into a conversation, ask you questions to try and get to know you, basically. Don’t expect the usual drivel like: How’s the weather? What d’you do over the weekend?, etc. Because, remember! We cannot abide small talk! Intellectual compatibly is pretty high on an INTJ’s list, so this is when they gauge whether you make the cut. INTJs choose partners just like they choose anything else…. with care.

When and how an INTJ will make his/her feelings known varies greatly. Some may come right out and say it (expect something more on the lines of a feasibility analysis rather than a mushy declaration of undying love) others might just find themselves ‘falling into’ a relationship. Signs that an INTJ is really interested in you is when he/she might do things that they wouldn’t generally do, but that you find important. Say your band is playing at a pub, he’d/she’d attend even though he/she may not necessarily enjoy going to one. Bear in mind though, you sometimes might have to spell it out for the INTJ. INTJs revel in optimising things. So an INTJ will show his/her affection by doing practical things for you…. like upgrading your comp. or mapping out the best route to work. Efficiency is something we value highly and by making things more efficient for you, is how we show we care.

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